As actors a lot of us are multihyphenates AND we also get to make a LOT of choices on a daily basis for our acting careers
Let me ask you – can you say yes to any of these questions?
- Do you find it hard to choose a goal because you don’t want to make the wrong choice?
- Do you feel like you’re always searching for something new or you get distracted by what others are focusing on?
- Do excuses roll out of your mouth effortlessly? Well, you call them justifications. 🙂
Oh, hello there. I lovingly bestow upon you the title of: The Non–Committer.
Typically, not fully committing stems from a fear of failure.
If you don’t fully commit, and you do fail, you can always say –
“Well, I didn’t give it my all”
or
“Well, I knew that would happen because of (insert all the excuses you say)”.
Here are my top two tools to cut that sh*t out. Yeah, I said it.
These tips will get you to be a person of your word and commit to your goals and your vision. 🙂
1. Accountability From an Outside Source.
Tell someone what you’re doing and put it out there in the ether!
When I decided that I was going to launch my premium paid program, Dare to be Unstoppable in 2018, the first thing I did once I committed to doing it was to post about it on FB.
No joke! It may sound silly AND there is power in just putting it out there. I declared it to the world so now I had to do it! That course had literally been in my head for 3 years and I was done with forming new excuses as to why I couldn’t create it.
That’s why people join DietBets and Mastermind Groups and document their progress toward a goal on a vlog or blog.
Accountability almost forces you to commit to your goal with a deep drive and focus.
When someone is holding you accountable, whether your FB community, one individual person, a mentor, a coach – it shifts the energy.
It’s not just about you and all your reasons as to why you can’t. And you have someone holding you to what you committed!
If this is an issue, I have to ask – who is part of your accountability team? If you don’t have one then do a little journaling on what you want that to look like for you.
I have an accountability partner that I speak to daily for 20-30 minutes. It keeps my excuses at bay.
In order to receive the support of accountability though, you need my second tip.
2. Stay Accountable to Yourself!
When you say you’re going to do something, do it. Let no excuse, no one and nothing stand in your way. Easier said than done, I know.
We’ve become a culture of back trackers, justifiers and white liars.
There is a powerful book called The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz. Agreement number one is Be Impeccable with Your Word.
Practice this on a small level daily.
For example – When you tell your friend you’re going to see their stand up show and then that night you’re tired and you don’t feel like it. So you make an excuse and don’t go. You committed to something…but only if everything was perfect.
Therefore, you’re always living your life with one foot in and one foot out.
Be impeccable with your word.
If you show up in the world being impeccable with your word to others, it will naturally become second nature with yourself as well.
By mastering these skills you will always maintain accountability with yourself and create the space to be held accountable by others.
This is not a go-it-alone business you’ve chosen. You get to lean on others to support you and you get to be there for others as well. Commit to others, commit to yourself and commit to your career. The magic trifecta. 🙂
